Dear Ladies: The Power of Your Intuition Against Abuse

I can never forget an experience I had sometimes back. It was last year January. What had happened? There was a week-long program in my church that I wanted to attend. I happened to stay on the Island, and the program was to hold on the mainland. Most conferences finished around past 8pm/9pm, so, the chances of going back to the Island looked bleak for me, especially for the fact that I was not mobile at the time.

Somewhere by chance, an elderly friend and I got talking, I had met her sometimes in July 2018. She said there was a place she stayed around the mainland, that she would talk to who she lived with to ask if I could join her for the week-long program. She did, and the answer was yes. One of the things that seemed to stand out was that, when she was talking and she was saying she lived ALONE with a man, I had my skepticisms, but then, the fact that I trusted my friend, and according to her, the man was an old and nice man made me quiet down a bit. Not sure I asked her any question.

Fast forward to the week I would spend in the house, the first time I saw the man was another moment I would never forget. We got home around 9pm (I guess), and my first sight of the man was not funny. The man had come to open the door for us. He was bare chested with a white wrapper tied around his waist. He also happened to be very tall, with white hairs on his head, which made things scarier, such that his very impression on me was that of an occult man. I literally swallowed the feeling and proceeded to the room I was going to stay with my friend. On getting there, something about the room just didn’t stick with me. The room was small, quite rough and dirty, just like the house itself was very small and quite choky. I immediately phoned someone to call an Uber for me (story for another day), which he did.

By this time, it was already 10pm, and I was going to the far ends of the Island from Yaba. When we got to YabaTech, the uber driver asked me where I was going, and I said Ajah. He kind of stopped the car and said he couldn’t go that far. One reason was that he lived in Ikorodu and was still going back home that night, the other reason was that he would not get a customer while coming back. Well, the man who got me the Uber tried bargaining with him on call, but nothing concrete could be reached, so, the driver turned back and dropped me back to where I dreaded to stay. I eventually stayed in this man’s house for the program.

Literally a year and some months later (precisely June this year), I realized that this man is a serial molester, and sexual abuser. What really happened? Well, stay tuned.

What I want to bring out, especially to us ladies is that we should pay CLOSE attention to our intuition. We should not wait to see evil before we acknowledge our intuition. When you heart has questions, especially quite troubling and doubting ones, pause on the action. Don’t be in such a hurry to do things (even if they are right and legit). When your spirit for whatever reason do not feel comfortable in a place – run! Don’t wait to know why. Joseph in the Bible didn’t wait to see what Potiphar’s wife would do, he simply ran. More so, the Bible says we should FLEE every appearance of evil.

God forbid we see rape, as sometimes it comes quite suddenly with little or no physical warnings, but when it comes to abuse and molestation, there are always signs, there are always warnings. A major mistake we make as ladies is making assumptions for these useless human beings involved in such acts. Why? Because they appear as fathers and brothers. We are mostly so naïve and trusting, whereas, they are so calculative and manipulative.

I pray God helps us against these predatory ‘animals’. In the meantime, let us pay drastic attention to our intuition, especially as ladies. They mostly never go wrong. Sometimes we never get to know why we had the intuition (but then we are saved from the could-have been danger), other times, we get to know weeks, months, or years later and we end up very thankful and grateful.

Would you like to share any experience you had with your intuition, especially when you ignored it? The comment session is opened. Let’s all share so we all can learn.

Till I see you next week on the blog (by Grace), keep staying strong, safe, and yielding to your intuition. Much love.


References: The Bible, via Genesis 39 and 1 Thessalonians 5:22

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