Tuesday, 26 May 2015

Own your happiness!

People often seek to have happiness from others. Such people feel extremely lonely and incomplete on their own. They often end up needy- annoyingly needy and by so doing, end up going from one person to another and hopping from one bed to another. It's often a factor that pushes people into marriage, thinking- 'when I get married I'll be happy'.
I guess it all started from the phrase 'and they lived happily ever after'. This phrase unfortunately has deceived a lot of people about life and reality. It has deceived people into believing happiness can only be found with someone else. I lived with this notion unconsciously till I was a teenager. I was delivered when God brought across my way one of Funmi Akingbade's books. Reading the book made me realize happiness was a personal thing.
Many people rush into marriage with a strong hope that marriage will bring them happiness, so they live their single lives miserably while day dreaming of the happiness they'll get from marriage. Hence, many get married ignorantly.
To start with, real happiness is not what someone gives you, rather, it's a gift you give yourself. No one can be/ should be the source of your happiness. You are the source of your happiness; yes! you alone! People that come into your life only complements what you already have on the inside of you. Real happiness starts from knowing yourself, loving you and accepting yourself for who you are even while working on getting better. Real happiness is a protective film that keeps you from making mistakes out of being miserable. Real happiness brings you wholeness and makes you ready for love...
You gotta start owning your own happiness!