Let’s talk about marriage!

One, two, three- go! So let’s talk about marriage! And while we talk, be slow to call me crazy. It’s just the way I see it, and I think it might help you get your pillow less soaked with tears. Shall we? It’s going to be some minutes of hard and frank talk. Grab your timer and- let’s go!

Why cry and weep about marriage? Is that the essence of who you are, or what totally you are called to do??? You are not your body no matter its tantrums and efforts to own you. You are a spirit trapped in a body- your body- with an assignment to do for a limited time. Your main goal is your mandate- the assignment you were given to do by God, and all other things are comforts/aids to help you in your assignment, including marriage.

To be married is to have the privilege of having an earthly member like you on the same ship with you- a companion that eases your tension, adds to you and helps you in your God-given mission; and vice versa. Marriage is more than sex: it is divine partnership for divine assignment.

You are no lesser because you are not married (yet). Clamoring strictly on marriage is you missing the reason for your existence. Don’t get me wrong- marriage is good, but it’s not all there is about you or your life. You are more than your desires and raging hormones. Which is not to say that sex is the only reason why we desire marriage.

My advice for singles waiting on God for marriage would be: Stay close and content with God. Ask and praise. Do your own part of preparation, and at the right time- just when the time is right, He will give you your partner- the partner He deems fit for the work He has called you to do. Marriage is the ‘yoking’ of two souls together for the sole purpose of destiny just as two oxen are equally yoked together to bring about effectiveness on farmlands. Marriage is having a lifelong, trustworthy partner that will be with you for a lifetime and help in the fulfillment of your dreams. Wait for God all the way all through your life’s journey and while you wait in every phase, make Matthew 6:33 your watchword.

And lastly: before you say yes, consider from deep within what the usefulness and the results of you two being together will be- the impact it will have on the quality of your lives, your generation, and the world at large.

Till I come your way again- Stay Blessed and thoughtful.

Eniola Olaosebikan.

Trapped

I'm trapped in you
For eternity?
Maybe not
But say eighty, a hundred years.

I asked for no body
But I was given you
With an assignment- a mandate
That'll last for less than a hundred years
But'll resound through eternity
Till a new earth beckons.

No one else could do it
So I was sent.

What can stop me?
The shape of your nose
Or the colour of your skin?
Your legs, or the way you walk?
The hairs on your head (which you're lucky to have)
Or the scars on your skin?
Your fat belly or your too small or too big buttocks?
Maybe not.
I do not belong to you forever.

I'm only trapped in you
For a little while.
You are a container
My spirit travels in
On the sojourn- this temporary abode called earth.

The end is
To pour out my all in bits: my content
Till all becomes empty
And I go hither
To where I came from
And to He
Who sent me.

The only bond I have
Is to take care of you;
Maintain you
Till the end comes.
You matter, but I-
The me within
Matters most.

You are a means
To my fruitful existence,
Just what I need
To execute my assignment
Till immortality calls
At the final close
Of my eyes.

I am trapped- in you
But unstoppable.