Is Being Engaged A Strictly Exclusive Affair?

So, there was this lady eyeing this man. The man happened to be in a situation one would basically refer to as ‘blessed art thou amongst women’. He was about the only eligible male in a world of more than 10 ladies, who to an extent and for some reasons, were always around him. As a matter of fact, the ladies and the man all blended and there was not a case of someone trying to own him, until someone completely different came along. With the new lady came a significant difference. It turned out that for some reasons, she had her eyes on him. 

The first thing she did on joining the circle was to make sure she played and laughed with the man like everybody else. But then, at some points, with her, some things really seemed to go off. She began to lay claim to the guy in some form of ways, while acting all coy as though she never cared about him. She would jokingly fight anyone trying to call his name in a different way that suggested a different meaning, which in some ways threatened both her claim to the guy, and the ‘joy’ of having him some day.

Well, long story cut short, the lady played her game so well, and in the space of months, she ‘landed’ herself the guy. Like one assuming a new office, the first thing she did was to in some ways pursue those he was particularly close to, especially those the man had done things for in the past that suggested a possible likeness. The second thing she did, amidst many other things, was to isolate this man from the ‘reach’ of others, such that in places where the man and all the other ladies stayed to joke together, he was not found anymore. Slowly, he began to be seen in places that seemingly was unavoidable- church and of course his work area when stumbled upon. Things like joking together with others became a thing of the past. Well, it never took long for the ladies to pick the signals and in the long run and in some ways, ‘abandon’ the guy, since his new boo would have nothing to do with them…

Going with this scenario (which is a real-life scenario by the way), the question is - should dating or being engaged to a man cause you to make the man’s life generically exclusive? Should his life only be with you? And as a matter of fact- revolve only around you? 

To answer the question from my own perspective, I guess couples should still strive to have their individual lives even after marriage. Shielding/keeping your partner to yourself would never make him/her live his/her best life. There need to be singleness/individuality to a great extent in marriage, so each party don’t get so tired of themselves, and at that- irritated. Sadly, the couples above are no longer together, because nothing in the way they went about their relationship (especially the lady) signifies ‘healthy’. When you give air to your relationship (by giving your partner the space to be his/herself), you give life and freshness to the relationship. Otherwise, the relationship would become suffocative and great would be the stench of it when it dies, because to start with, it was never built on what can be seen to be a healthy foundation.

This been said, what do you think about the whole situation? Do you think being in a relationship/being engaged or actually being married to someone should mark the end of one’s freedom and level of interaction with people? 

Till we come each other’s way next week, let’s stay interactive and happy with our environment. Would be a pleasure to read our opinions in the comment session below. Much love.

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