Regrets And Healing

My new year as it were has not ended. I have been going through my life as though a movie for the past few weeks, and I have been trying to correct some issues I found there. You would agree with me that depending on what lies in your past, it could be a painful and quiet moment, or a happy and joyful one seeing that upon going through your life, you have no regret. Or perhaps a mixture of the two for some reasons.

On my part, I would say it’s a mixture of the two. Basically because the mistakes I made have led me to glorious places I can’t deny, just as promised in Romans 8:28. Some things I would want to be sad (and sometimes bitter) about, but when I remember where the experience landed me, I begin to shed tears of joy because through it all, I felt the love and warmth of God.

Do I have regrets? In all honesty, I would say no, but that is not to say I do not have some painful and foolish experiences. This review I found myself doing unconsciously at first, has shaken so many things in my life. Imagine a strong man shaking a tree full of fruits? The shakings would no doubt cause things to fall off, especially such fruits that are spoilt and waiting for the slightest wind. When such tree is released from such vigourous shake, it would have been pruned of literally all the bad fruits on it, leaving the strong and young ones, thereby making the tree healthy once again.

One thing that helps to have a healthy pruning, especially such that wouldn’t lead to a break down/depression is to have the Maker of hearts with you- God; in such a way that as you are discovering the hurts, He’s pumping you full with His comfort, love and acceptance, such that by the time you are done pruning, you are already healed, instead of leaning on time to heal you. Yeah, some wounds would take time to heal, but the comfort and succour we get along the way makes it easier. It’s like pouring methylated spirit, iodine on a wound, or perhaps cleaning it with hydrogen peroxide. There would be a wound still, but the presence of such elements in the wound would help heal the wound at a faster rate.

What state are you in today? Do you feel like your world has ended? Why not go to the surgery room (as I call it)? There you would find your heart taking you through time, and as well- your Maker, present as a specialist, waiting with His nurses such as comfort, love, joy, peace and all to perform your suctions. Go through the moments if need be, feel the pain, but surrender it to God to do what He would with it. Most Heroes we look up to, especially in the past, we would agree that their pains landed them to where they eventually found themselves. A look at Joseph, he had no business being in slavery, and even in the prison, but some way, somehow, he found himself there. We all would agree that despite the forgiving heart and all he had, the experiences he garnered during the process of slavery and prison made him a much better leader. His father’s house wouldn’t have been his training ground, who would he have led, especially being the 11th of 12 children?

Sometimes sad, but then, God always have a way of making us arrive at our promised lands. The experience you have been through that you so much hate may be the wings on which your destiny would be announced. Jesus, our perfect example is not an exception to this principle- how He suffered to the cross, but the same cross He cried bitterly for God to take away later became the crux of His assignment in life.

So, relax sis, relax bro. I know you are tired of everything, perhaps with some regrets, but hand it over to God, review it with your heart (no matter the number of years ago it happened), and let the healing process begin. It may not be easy, but surrender to the process, and let God make of you- a better ‘tree’. 

Much love sisters and brothers. See you next week Wednesday by His Grace. Experiences are welcomed to be shared.

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