Continuing from where we stopped
last week- talking about the world being in cycle and we needing ourselves in
many ways not only to survive but to ensure the existence of great virtues by
making what goes around come around so to say. The world becoming the great place we imagine
it to be is a function of us all expressing our gifts and talents in ways and
mediums we know how best.
The world would indeed be better
if we seek not to consume alone, but also create, If we choose not to take
alone, but also give; children in desert areas would have been taken care of
through both acts of kindness and more efficient means of technology. Our love
for comfort zones and perhaps excessive pleasure explains why not just us are
the way we are, but also why the world is still the way it is and those
precious kids are still where they are- somewhere in the helpless desert hurt
and sickly. Some vaccines as well would have been discovered to combat some
more diseases effectively, but alas, we all are caught up in the hustle and
bustles of life as it were. Perhaps the one that is meant to have been the
inventor of that the world needs so desperately is stuck
somewhere in his comfort zone with an oil job, or perhaps that of a bank and is
unwilling to follow his ordained path despite the daily nudgings of his heart and the willingness of his intuition to serve as a basic guide along the way.
The ‘risk’ we take to be who we should be not
only affects us, but also those around us we know now or for some reasons do
not know yet. One thing that strikes me about Mo Abudu’s story is her
willingness to leave the familiar for the unfamiliar. She left an oil job(!),
first to face her own HR company which is perhaps commendable, but then to go
into the world of media which she has never been!- that my friend, is highly
commendable. Who does that? I must have imagined what would have played in her
head- the fear of being in a brand-new terrain, fear of starting from the
scratch, fear of ‘what if I fail’ and the likes, but in some ways, her
persistence paid off and now, we have someone from Africa taking Africa to the
world and changing the sickly narrative foreign media tells about Africa. Not
only that, we also have someone making African movies stand tall on the world’s
shelf with admiration and bewilderment.
One way to find our place on the
face of the earth is to pay attention to the things that hurts us as well as
the things that it’s absence always makes us cry on the inside. Paying
attention to ourselves and our state of mind per time can point us to our
primary area of calling. That way, compassion instead of sole pleasure or hanging
on to survival mode can rule and guide our decisions and we would find
ourselves caring for people through the pursuits of our inventions and the
services we have to give to the world. Besides, the ‘more’ we seek that
sometimes makes us stay put in our comfort zone can always be found in
following our dreams. Over time, being in the fullness of our dream would
always find us living the life we desire. Yes, the beginning might be rough,
but with the fullness of it comes the life we want, as well as the world the
world would have desired through us. In essence, following through with our
dream is a two-way street: it benefits us and the world at large.
Oprah Winfrey with some of the 'girls' she trains in her academy
The world being a whole big
puzzle, God sends us down piece by piece, bit by bit such that as we do our
part as sent, the world becomes a better place. If everyone sent to the world
actually fulfills their quota, we all would be in a better place and space. The
resultant effect of the world not being what it was created to be is not farfetched
from the choices we make as individuals. This is because we all get to the
earth and over time, something else takes our priority. Instead of being
consumed in that that burns beautifully on the inside of us, we either seek
hard after pleasure or compare ourselves to one another such that makes us lose
the fervor of going after our own dreams and becoming that which we were meant
to be. We procrastinate as well, putting till tomorrow what we know we can do
today thinking we have all the time in the world. We also become so concerned
with self-preservation such as what to wear, what to drink and what to eat such
that chokes away our dream and the urge/persistence to fight for it.
Our lives as humans usually unfolded
in phases, the fear of new beginnings per time makes us stay put in our old
phases (our comfort zones), relishing the success it has brought over time, and
that we still think it would bring. We are often time afraid to step out into
the new because we do not know what to expect, as well an overall view of the
eventual phase. As a result, we acquiesce to life all we can till finally we
wake up and we are eighty and retiring. We fail to know that if certainty is
all we live for, our lives will never have a meaning, because at some points in
life, we have to jump. We have to jump with all hope of being caught and times
when we seem not caught, we have to be willing to start from where we are.
Starting all over could be intimidating and challenging, but if well planned
and followed as laid down by our intuition, we would find ourselves sooner
enough soaring with wings as with eagles.
Food for thought: How would the world be like when instead of
drunken and abusive fathers, we have inventors, heartfelt engineers and the
likes, and in the place of Aso Ebi and excessive fun seeking mothers, we have
doctors, lawyers, media gurus and the likes? The world would indeed be a better
place if we all fall into our place and stop floating in places we are not wanted
or we shouldn’t even be in the first place- work places we go in tears and never
out of love, friends we have that holds us back but we keep for status reasons,
etc.
Our children as a matter of fact would
be safer because there would be no child molester or serial rapist because
everybody someway somehow would be busy contributing their quotas positively to
the world instead of devising evil means to hurt other people. How lovely would
the world be if everybody were focused on their lives as though we had exams
the next day? Everyone would not only be busy doing what they were called to
do, but also have little time for frivolities. Well, someone might say the
world would be boring if we all are to get busy, but then what if lack of
self-fulfillment is what make people while away time finding what is not lost
in the first place? I once heard someone say- “if you never find fulfillment
within yourself as an individual, you will never find fulfilment in the things
you do outside of yourself”. In other words, the highest form of fun would be
the one we find within ourselves- the fun we find on the path to being who we
are called to be. The wholeness destiny brings is fun on its own- think about
it.
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This part of your article is so true and the principle has changed mylife. ''We fail to know that if certainty is all we live for, our lives will never have a meaning, because at some points in life, we have to jump. We have to jump with all hope of being caught and times when we seem not caught, we have to be willing to start from where we are. Starting all over could be intimidating and challenging, but if well planned and followed as laid down by our intuition, we would find ourselves sooner enough soaring with wings as with eagles.''.....Permit me to share my personal experience as regards this principle. I was on a job for 2years (2016-2018) but resigned May, 2018. Not because of the pay, but because the management does not have plans for staff growth/trainings. I was out of the job for 6months between May-November. During this 'tough time', survival was a tough thing, but i was committed to reading and personally developing myself in my career. Fortunately, i got another job with a company that value staff training, and the pay is 120% times the previous one. Oftentimes, jumping to the next step takes courage, patience and determination. It would not be a easy decision, but it will worth it at the long run.
ReplyDeleteHAVE A CLEAR VISION OF WHAT YOU WANT AND GO FOR IT.
Thanks for the article. @ Eniola Olaosebikan
Good to know Mr. Bayo; congrats on your new job. A million thanks.
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