Would Life Be Better Lived If Viewed From This Perspective?

What if you see life this way? – as a university. We all belong to this institution studying different courses. The only difference would be that unlike universities where we all know the courses we are studying, we do not necessarily know the course we are studying in this university of life until we actually finish the course. It is on the congratulatory message that we actually see the course we just studied for.

Let’s say for instance, as a student of life’s university, you are studying a course called patience, you would never know till you finish. All it would supply to you are the subjects you would need to finish the course.  Subjects in life’s university usually have to do with co-students (human beings) and their emotions. To pass a particular course in a semester, it might give you a sensitive boss for instance. And sometimes, depending on the level of patience you need, there might be many topics in the subject. The title of the subject could be – ‘a sensitive boss’. Under the ‘subject’ are topics such as a difficult co-worker, annoying new flat mate, bad bus drivers and conductors (especially for those that resides in Lagos Nigeria), etc. You get the gist? Now repeat a similar process for a course such as diligence, loyalty, perseverance and the likes. Besides, given this clue, what course can you say you are currently undergoing in the university of life?

Just like a university boasts of lecturers, and the likes, there are lecturers in this life’s university as well. Just as it is in real university, these lecturers can only teach you based on their level of understanding and experience. If you are fortunate, you go to one who knows the subject very well, and can guide you through your process of understanding. If the reverse is the case, and one meets someone who appears to know but does not actually know, the result of his teaching could lead you to frustration, and as a result, make you need further help.

No doubt, in real life universities, there are Professors. Well, in this life’s university, there is only one Professor. This Professor has successfully seen zillions of humans through life – right from birth, till exit. The amazing thing about this Professor is that he is patient enough to give each individual a personal template, especially in times of confusion and times we are dealing with very difficult ‘courses’. He is a basic line between us and our Creator. He is – The Holy Spirit.

The only way to access Him (who can also pass as a Grand patron of life university) is to acknowledge His Partners’ existence, and believe in them. Such way, He can basically receive information from them, and pass it on to us, so our lives can be lived with more ease while in the university (which fortunately/unfortunately takes a lifetime). If His partners are your enemy, there is no way He can bring information from them to you. And His partners? – God and Jesus. Him being one with them, you can’t accept Him, and reject the others. You have to accept the Lordship of the three, for you to have unrestricted access to them. All you have to do is say you accept their Lordship, and that they are welcome to guide you through life.

A reason why I started writing this article was to talk about the cycles of life. How we learn and unlearn in each cycle, and as well, how things we learnt in a last cycle can become a burden in the next cycle. Wanted to talk about the compulsory act of shedding, and adding in life, which (fortunately or unfortunately?) happen in cycles. I guess that might be a topic for another day, as the article instead of conforming to my wish, took a mind of its own.

I hope we are blessed? And perhaps received a little more clarity about life and situations? - That all things work together for our good in the end no matter how bad it seems or starts? I learnt something quite new with this article, I hope you did too. Till I see you next week by His Grace, keep being a great student of life. See you on graduation day (if you actually invite me by sharing your passed courses with the blog: the processes and how it turned out). Until then, much love.

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Throwback Wednesday: Let's Talk About Dreams...

Welcome to today's blog post.

We'll be going down the memory lane today, more like a throwback. I'll be (re)sharing my very first post on the blog. I hope you find some strength and faith as you read, just like I did while re-reading a while ago. So, let's talk about dreams...

"We all have dreams, we all have desires, we all have hopes.

We dream and talk so much of those dreams that we sometimes literally forget to start.  we have the believe/ thought that everything will work together someday. Will everything work together? Yes, but not without our effort.

We watch our mates move up the ladder, most of them doing what they love and we say to ourselves, sometimes, someday, the world will know me too. we forget that it takes a lot of hard work and self discipline to get things done. I guess if we all could talk without having to be an example, most people would want to encourage others on being the best they can be, without being one themselves. It takes little to talk, but it takes more to act and actually be it.

All said and done, what does it takes to be the best we can be per time? what does it takes to start? Most of us have an idea of what we want to be, at what time, at what age...only we have almost nothing in place to make them a reality. We know though, but also forget that a well orchestrated today is the foundation for the tomorrow we dream of.

Why don't you pick up that one thing it takes to start and start?

Pick up a little courage and let your passion keep you going.

What is it you want to be today? what is it you want to achieve? All it takes to start is a little courage-just a little."

Hope you were a bit encouraged? See you next week Wednesday by His Grace. Much love.

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Crazy Bridal Blues?

My friend Ipadeola had always wanted to get married. I could remember as a child growing up, she was the one who would always turn her wrapper into a princess dress, and sometimes even, wrap her mother’s white lace wrapper around her whole body to depict her being a bride.

Ipadeola’s childhood dream of marriage I would say was as a result of pop culture at the time, especially the books she read which told her ‘and they lived happily ever after’. Back then, Ipadeola’s desire of marriage was based on the fact that marriage would give you happiness, especially such you’ve never had before.  Who doesn’t want happiness, especially such that appears free and effortless?

But then, growing up and seeing the reality of life, the desire to get married to be happy slowly began to fade away. Ipadeola being an introvert, now desired to get married based on companionship and understanding. She wanted someone who would understand her, including all her seeming weirdness, and also serve as a soul companion to her. In the same vein, provided the person’s weirdness was not one that could make her lose her sanity and peace, she was willing to be all that to the person as well, given that as human beings, we all possess a degree of weirdness in us. So, someone who can accommodate hers, and she can accommodate his as well without each party losing any sanity, peace and friendship would be just fine.

Well, moving on to real adulthood, for some reasons, Ipadeola never found a man she would want to spend the rest of her life with. She resulted to being happy by herself, and just at the peak period she was enjoying her single life, a man walked in. They had an amazing relationship, and just about the time they were about getting married, Ipadeola started having some scares.

Ipadeola’s major problem as an introverted single was having more of younger people as friends, than people her agemate. By the virtue of the conferences she attends, and her job type, she realized that she is indeed surrounded by younger people (with age difference ranging from 3 to 9years). She had found it quite hard mixing with them initially, but then, having mixed with them through series of official outings and travels, she realized that life is indeed fun with loving and vision-filled people around- younger or older. As well, being a very beautiful lady, she garnered attention almost everywhere she went to, and to a large extent, she discovered those attentions got her favours.

Now that her boyfriend had proposed to her and it suddenly dawned on her that she might lose her friends (because they might want to respect her more now that she is married, and as a result, create distance between them, especially for the fact that she had found real friendship among them though younger to her in age), and also for the fact that the attentions and favours she got for being without a ring (single) and beautiful might soon be coming to an end. She also fears that she might not be able to go out like before, especially volunteer for causes like she always loved doing (most of which she meets these younger people that later become her friends).

Even though she loves the man she is with, and would in turn get married to him, she fears that she might have to start again, as things might change a bit drastically after marriage, especially based on the fact that much respect is attached to a married lady, and men (who naturally was just attracted to her beauty with no ring on her finger) may suddenly begin to distance themselves from her. Should she not wear a ring after marriage? She asked herself, asking me too in the process. Perhaps the fear is one major reason artists (male and female) tend to hide their marital status to keep their fans. The males to an extent do not want their female fans to know they are actively dating, engaged or married, and the females too do likewise to their male fans.

Speaking of brides-to-be, has any bride experienced this dilemma or something similar? Is it normal to fear missing being single as pertaining to these issues raised? What would be your response to her? Plus is it a normal experience in the first place? Especially for intending brides?

“No doubt marriage requires many changes, which I am willing to make, as this man is worth my company. The reason why I put this to you is to ask if it’s a normal feeling to have, going by the fact that I am an introvert and it took me time to have the life I have now as a single” – she said.

Is she just being unreasonable and fearful without a reason, or it's one of such feelings that comes to mind before marriage? Or she is too used to getting attention and natural favours (with no-string attached) just by the virtue of her head-turning beauty and fears losing it? Perhaps a case of someone who wants to eat her cake and have it back?

I’m sure she would be reading this and as a result, would appreciate your inputs.

Much love.

N.B – I know it’s tagged ‘bridal blues’, but do men also have this kind of feeling? – Being afraid of what married life would be like without your seeming norm as a single? What do you all think?

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What Do You Understand By The Term – ‘Universe’?

This morning, I was reading the Good Book, and some verses jumped at me. A particular verse in The Message translation seemed to be the highlight. It says- “Your life is a journey you must travel with a deep consciousness of God...”. Couldn’t get it off my head, hence, this article.

These days, we seem to refer to the unseen, as the Universe. In other words, in this age and time, the Universe can be said to be a term interchanged with the idea of being God. We believe the Universe has a strong role to play in determining the course of happenings on the earth, especially as a form of guiding force, or that which gives to people what they actively deserve (either through conducts, or through thoughts). So, if we believe the Universe exists, with Karma as one of its agents, don’t you think there would be something waiting after death?

How do you think we appeared on the earth? Via the Universe? If the Universe is the master of the world, one who determines people’s lot in life through their cooperation, don’t you think it would have plans for us after death, especially as creatures of wonder amongst all living things existing on the earth?

There is One, the Master, who sent us on earth as messengers. He gave us one thing while leaving – our freewill. It is with this freewill He would judge us with when we return back to Him. How do we return back to Him? Through death. With Birth, He released us to the earth to carry out His assignment as messengers; with death, we return back to Him for accountability and judgement.

Who amongst you would have a staff, send the staff on an errand and would have no interest in the report he/she brings back? Of course, there would be a filed report of things encountered and all, as well as how the resources given to the individual was spent. Such is life, especially life after death. It’s nothing deep as it were, only something natural. The same way you would want an account of time spent while your staff was away to the place sent (and backed with company’s resources), is the same way the One who made you and I desires, and deserves a report upon our exit through death.

I say this not to scare anyone, but to face us all with the truth we all fail to confront, all because death is a topic we consciously refrain ourselves from thinking, despite the fact that we all would die someday. An alternative to us not dying is the Master of the Universe Himself come to harvest the earth. it is the term referred to as Rapture….

Perhaps the main crux would be – how do we live a life that will produce a good account? I guess 1 Peter 1:18a (MSG) gives an idea – living with a reverent consciousness of God and allowing the thought to guide our actions. The thing is, being human, (especially such mentioned in Jeremiah 17:9) does not guarantee that, so what do we do? How do we make sure we subject our human mind to the consciousness of its Creator? We can do this by giving our freewill back to God. Why? Simply because the freewill is greater than us: it is such a powerful force that can drown us if we do not subdue it. If we get bent on using it ourselves, a lot of mistakes would happen. The use of our freewill can explain why we have a lot of violence in the world – everybody wants to be liberal in action, even when it hurts a fellow human being. You feel like pulling a gun, and you pull it. Why? – an unrestrained freewill. As a result, giving your freewill to the One who made it is a ‘sneaky’ way of ensuring it stays under control. Why? the One who made it already understands it, as a result, it would be easy for Him to guide us into using it, unlike if we are bent on using ourselves.

Another thing that could help is using the manual the One who gave us the freewill established on the earth. It is called the Good Book for a reason. As well, communicating with the Master who sent us constantly would help regulate our thought, as well as give direction to our mission, just like a staff sent on a mission away from the home office would have to keep calling the home office for guidance and report of status. The act of reporting while on earth is called prayer. It is the act of telling Him how things are exactly.

There are many lucky factors about our mission on the earth. One is the fact that the Master is always open to our reports, even if it’s not a too good report. He has made Himself reachable at all times for our sake, so we will not be stranded (Hebrews 4:16; Hebrews 13:5).

Another very lucky factor is that the Master has a Son who understands us perfectly. Because of the way He understands us through His own experience of humanity, He has chosen to be a link between us and our Maker, such that if we go through Him, more things would be released to us to effectively fulfil our mission, and as well, ensure a good report after death. One of the things we would have when we go through Him is the Spirit of Wisdom called the Holy Spirit. This Spirit would stay with us while on earth, and constant communication with Him and obedience to the things He tells us would ensure that we get all we need on this earth, including comfort for our life’s journey when we go through hard times and trials (which are all part of life).

The Son’s name is Jesus. All we need do is accept Him as the Lord of our lives, so through Him and the Power that has been given to Him through the Master, we can live a victorious life, a life worthy of report, such that would earn us a good place when we return back to our home office, which is Heaven.

Would end the discussion here. If at any time you crave for a discussion on this subject, it would be a pleasure to devote time to have the discussion together. My contacts are below, or we could engage in the comment section if you will.

Till I come your way next Wednesday by His Grace, it would help to keep thinking on issues of life, such as this. Until then, I appreciate you.

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A Third World Realm Has Been Discovered…

Sometimes last week, the account of some top dignitaries and celebrities were hacked on Twitter. The hackers posted on the integrity of the account holders, asking for financial remunerations of some sorts. Most people seeing it as an opportunity rushed to send hundreds and thousands of dollars. No doubt, everyone wants free money to an extent. Why am I writing this?

In times past, we were told we have two worlds – the spiritual, and the physical world. But then if you ask me, in an age like this, I would say we have three worlds (if not more). The spiritual, physical, and the VIRTUAL world. The first is unseen, the second is seen, and the last I would say is a mixture of the two. What do I mean?

When people post on social media, do you know the exact point they are in life? Some are going through serious issues and posting pictures of good times. You only see what people post, not exactly what is going on in their lives, which is exactly why the virtual world is a mixture of the seen, and the unseen.

The sad thing is, quite a lot of people these days are placing their real life at the mercy of other people’s virtual lives. Something which makes them sad in return, thinking the grass is so brown on their own side of life. We simply have unconsciously compared the real life we are living which is full of troubles here and there like anybody else, to somebody else’ virtual world.

Most of the time, when it comes to social media, we make a lot of assumptions. No doubt, some people consciously fuel those assumptions by doing intentional photoshoots of their lives in good times and places, so people can think/see they are (also) doing well in life. But then, most times, the assumption comes from us. Someone innocently posts a good picture of his or herself, and suddenly we think the world has moved and everyone has literally left us behind (especially when the individual posts from outside the country which you don’t even know if he/she is squatting and living his/her most miserable life ever, even though outside the country and looking so fly).

What am I trying to say in essence? Asides the spiritual world (which we all know is real though unseen), the other real world is our physical world. Very few things are real on social media. Very few. Besides, it’s only human to post what you see as presentable on social media pages. No one goes through bad times and posts them on his/her wall. Even if they do, it’s often after the phase has passed. I bet if you see a real happening of what is happening in the other person’s life, you might literally block the person, because you are likely to see the person as problematic, or plainly sad, meanwhile, the life would have been a real representation of the human life – a mixture of happiness and pain.

As a result, caution, is a word we must embrace when it comes to social media. Taking every single thing you read at face value would do you a whole lot of damage than good. What happened last week Wednesday (the twitter page of celebrities hacked) is a pointer to how fickle social media is, and how you shouldn’t take everything you see seriously, no matter whose page it is. Get the encouragement you can from social media, but never allow its fakeness get to you. Not everybody is as rich as they appear, and neither is everybody as beautiful/holy as they appear. And even when they appear to be what they post, you have no idea what happens behind the scene. The Hushpuppi saga is an example – Rich on social media, a fraudster behind the scene. Now that he is in jail, based on his real life (as opposed to his virtual life display of wealth and legitimacy), do you still envy or want to be like him?

Save yourself the pressure and trauma. Be content with your own life. As a matter of fact, like the popular Mr. Macaroni would say – YOU ARE (already) DOING WELL.

It’s inhumane to think everybody is having it easy except you, especially based on the things you see on social media. The fact is – as long as we are humans, we will always have (and will keep having) our share of trouble, no matter how rich, no matter how influential. Social media can be likened to an aquarium where fishes are made to believe they are in their natural habitat (the sea), whereas, they are trapped in a much smaller world, despite its beauty and similitude to the real world. You catch that? So, never allow any thing weigh you down in the virtual world, most are not real, and even when they happen to be, it’s only a season of their life, not all there is about them, just like you do not post all there is about you too.

Relax, and take the virtual world with a pinch of salt, so you will not fall into ‘hackers’ hands’ – the pretenders. And as well, never assume a thing based on anyone’s page you see. Be content, be happy, because in the end, we are all humans and troubled seasons comes to all, even the Queen!

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Healing From a Hurt

I wanted to title this ‘healing from a sudden hurt’, but then, I realized that virtually all hurts are sudden. They are sudden either because we didn’t pay attention to the little clues we were seeing (mostly based on a solid trust developed for the individual that inflicted the hurt), or that we just didn’t see it coming at all.

Hurts are not funny at all, especially seeing they come from (supposed) friends. Little wonder king David was lamenting his hurt in Psalm 55:12-14, how someone very close to him had betrayed him. No one prays to be hurt, but hurts do happen anyway. So, how can we heal from hurts?

My very first way would be to feel the pain. What do I mean by this? Most times when we feel hurt, there is the feeling of our world crashing down. Some people block the pain to continue their normal life, as though the hurt/pain never happened, others take their time out to deal with the pain. I fall into the latter category.

Recently, the gravity of a hurt I secured sometimes last year became evident to me and for a minute, it was as though I was dreaming. The discovery was unbelievable (especially for the fact that I’d been trying to hide from the truth regarding the issue). The hurt hit me and a crash seemed inevitable. Knowing there was no escape from the pain, I allowed myself feel the pain. The more I allowed the pain in, the more hurtful and shocked I was, especially seeing the ‘quarters’ the hurt came from.

Being someone that learns in the process of grieving for a hurt, I went over all the chats I had with this person that hurt me, and as though scales were taken off my eyes, I began to see where the signs began coming in, but then, I was too trusting – such trust that makes you blind to every clue. I realized the moments I should have stepped up, and with the moments I stepped up, I realized the points I shouldn’t have apologized with some actions I took, all in the name of keeping peace. The more I went over the chat, the more hurt I felt, and as it were, the more stupid I felt for not paying attention to the clues and allowing myself to be played. [Lest I forget, journaling as well helps in relating pain (writing everything that happened, and why it got to you the way it did. More like thinking with the aid of a pen and paper. It helps you know why you are hurt, and sometimes the extent to which you are hurt). The journal serves as a form of therapy, even though quite a number of people would prefer to see a therapist in itself.]

However, there is a level of pain a human being can take, just like there is a level of sickness a doctor can handle on his own before surrendering himself to more capable hands to be taken care of, especially at points where surgery is needed. So, where do we take all our hurts to, especially after allowing ourselves to feel all the hurts and learn a chunk of the lesson while in the pain? I would say- you take it to someone higher and more capable of healing. You take it to God – the Maker of our hearts and emotions.

How do you take your pain to God? You take it to him in heartfelt conversations (prayer). You take it to Him in worship, and sometimes (or perhaps most times) – in messed up tears. This works a lot for me. When I take my pain to God, He opens my eyes to some dimensions that makes the case not as bad as I viewed it. He as well comforts me with His words by leading me to comforting scriptures in the Bible, dropping a phrase in my heart, leading me to a book to read, or by making people around me post scriptures that would mean a lot to me in the pain. Psalm 147:3 was a scripture I got with the latter method. As well, when I take my pain to God, someway somehow, I realize my focus shifts from the all-consuming pain, to the awesomeness and steadfastness of God. I see Him as the God who remains the same (as lovely as ever), despite the constant changing nature of the world.

All these may take a while, but these steps has immeasurably worked for me over and over. I hope this helps? How do you deal with your pain? One of these days, we should talk about ‘trust’. It seems to be the source of so many pains. We would talk about the best way to trust fellow human beings, especially considering what the Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9, about the heart of man being desperately wicked. The wickedness of man I believe is the source of virtually all hurts, such hurts we fall into because of (blind) trust. As well, we would talk about how we ourselves will not be sources of pain to other people, knowing how bad betrayal hurts.

I hope you’ve blessed? Care to share your coping/healing mechanisms? Let’s meet in the comment session. Or would you rather write a whole article on it? My email is open for submissions. We are all in this (life) to learn. Learning from each other would go a long way to help our lives’ journey.

Till I come your way next week Wednesday, stay good and well. Much love.

N.B – Are you currently hurting, especially from a form of betrayal? Would like to recommend T.D Jakes book to you. It’s titled CRUSHING- GOD TURNS PRESSURE INTO POWER. Been reading it and it has really been helpful.

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