Wednesday, 31 July 2019

Finding Yourself After The Storm

One thing I know (at least through my readings and stories heard) is that when two countries (or village as it were) fights, one country after a while wins, but not until a lot of damage has been done to either of the lands. No war- great or small leaves a place the same. As a result of the aftermath, there would always be some forms of statues to raise back, monuments to rebuild, and of course, houses and shelters to provide, especially in a situation where the war was severe.
A look at today’s era, while it is true that to an extent (especially compared to the times of old), we fight no more physical battles as it were, one thing holds true- we fight still. However, these battles we fight do not consist of swords, spears and axes drawn or thrown in open spaces; it consists of our minds and our thoughts and the weapons we fight with as opposed to swords, spears and axes are- truth and diligence.
Why truth and diligence? Because majority of the time, these battles (though inside of us) are started with lies- the lies of our friends being better than us, the lie of us lagging behind even when we are not, and most especially, the lie of never being enough which sometimes forces us to do things we probably would not have done, just to prove (to ourselves most times), that we are enough. The degree to which we accept and process these lies as true often determines the severity or lightness of the battle.
Diligence on the other hand is needed to sit down with our thoughts and identify which is true or not. This is the part that requires us to be self-aware, as we can only fight these battles diligently with the truth we know about ourselves. These truths can be as little as knowing you are a girl, or as intimate as knowing you are never alone because your Creator promised never to leave you nor forsake you, as well as Him being a present help for you in troubled times.
Diligence as well will make us sit down and know substantial things about ourselves, so when the lies tumbles in, the truth we know about ourselves would thin them out. the question now is- how do we know these truths?
First is by knowing what your Creator says about you through the eternal manual He provided – the Bible, and the second would be by making reading good books an hobby; for it is not enough to understand the spiritual component of your being (which you would find in the bible), but also the emotional and physical aspect of your being as well, since man is a tripartite being consisting of the spirit, soul, and body. Knowing what your bible says would take care of your spiritual, being emotionally intelligent and aware would take care of your soul, and no doubt, having the knowledge of how to handle your body and take care of it would open you up to the physical.
As a result of all the knowing (via truth and diligence), finding ourselves and rebuilding our lives back (after the storm) as it should be would not only be easier (unlike if we had been clueless all along), but also worthwhile, especially in the case of battered self-esteem and shattered self-confidence.


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13 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this very important issue. The point is the cycle of human life is moving from one battle to another, some we win and some we lose. I think for me the crux of all these is what we make out of such experiences, what we learn and who we become. You will agree with me that these experiences don't leave us the same.
    There is a level of kindness and empathy that is forged from going through very tough times and coming out from it.It makes us go easier on other people and how we deal with them.
    Also when we heal from the hurts and pains we can comfort those who are going through that phase.

    I will conclude by saying we shouldn't isolate occurrences in our lives. Francine Rivers described the human life experiences as a woven tapestry, it is when you look at the full picture that you see the beauty, when it is still under construction, its not very fine.
    I pray that "when" life happens, with the help of the Holy spirit we are still able to count our gains and not the gaps.

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    1. Amen.
      Thank for your awe-inspiring comment. Life is indeed a woven tapestry. Just some days ago, I was looking back to some experiences I viewed as ugly when they happened, but then funny enough, instead of pain and sadness as before, all I felt was joy and gratitude. The experiences though painful and somewhat bitter has led me to where I am today- a place of joy and contentment. And like you said, with the experience experienced, I can easily through Grace empathise, as well as advice those in the position today.

      In the end, God indeed makes everything work together for our good, and everything good or bad can be chanelled towards a worthy cause.

      Thank you for your awesome comment.

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    2. Taking all of this in and reflecting.There's always a blessing in the storm if you quit complaining, embrace the storm by giving thanks, then lastly learn and make adjustments

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    3. Yeah, thank you. @Anonymous- Gratitude is so key in every season we find ourselves. Thank you for the timely reminder.

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  2. The destiny of a man is in God's hand. Experience cannot be bought. Tribulations produces experience, Experience produces patience and without patience, there is no life. Trusting God is very key in life. Contentment is necessary, be there no perfect calculation in life

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    1. @ no perfect calculation in life-so true. Trusting God is so key.
      Thank you for your awesome comment.

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  3. Thanks for sharing this. I do always remember the scripture that says for we know that all things work together for good to them that loves him. When ever I take a wrong turn and eventually find my way back I always thank God for the lessons learned because I would not have got those experiences if I were had initially taken the right path. The
    Bible says our light affliction worketh more exceedingly weight of glory. It is therefore important for us to understand that God is working through our storms crisis and trials as means of rearranging and shaping our lives for His devine glory.

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    1. Preach sister! @wrong turns and everything working together for our good- so on point. Thank you for your invaluable comment.

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  4. I used to be depressed whenever i go through storm especially the very tough ones but ever since i discovered proverbs 17 vs 3. i have learnt to appreciate God for every process or storm that comes my way.

    Proverb 17 vs 3 has this to say;
    “The fining pot is for silver, and the furnace for gold: but the LORD trieth the hearts."
    The tougher the storm the better we become.

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    1. Hmmmh. This a new one. Proverbs 17:3. Will make sure I check it out.
      Thank you.

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  5. Good morning and happy new month all. This is interesting, I am so blessed.

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    1. Hello from the 'other side'. How's honeymoon going? Thank you for taking out time to comment.
      #OurLatestGroomInTown.

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    2. Hi to you Soul Writer. Honeymoon is fantastic permit me to say *smilesss*. You are always welcome, as you already know that reading through the post and comments is a weekly 'nourishment', I wouldn't miss it even in tight schedule.*Cheers*

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