Let’s talk about marriage!

One, two, three- go! So let’s talk about marriage! And while we talk, be slow to call me crazy. It’s just the way I see it, and I think it might help you get your pillow less soaked with tears. Shall we? It’s going to be some minutes of hard and frank talk. Grab your timer and- let’s go!

Why cry and weep about marriage? Is that the essence of who you are, or what totally you are called to do??? You are not your body no matter its tantrums and efforts to own you. You are a spirit trapped in a body- your body- with an assignment to do for a limited time. Your main goal is your mandate- the assignment you were given to do by God, and all other things are comforts/aids to help you in your assignment, including marriage.

To be married is to have the privilege of having an earthly member like you on the same ship with you- a companion that eases your tension, adds to you and helps you in your God-given mission; and vice versa. Marriage is more than sex: it is divine partnership for divine assignment.

You are no lesser because you are not married (yet). Clamoring strictly on marriage is you missing the reason for your existence. Don’t get me wrong- marriage is good, but it’s not all there is about you or your life. You are more than your desires and raging hormones. Which is not to say that sex is the only reason why we desire marriage.

My advice for singles waiting on God for marriage would be: Stay close and content with God. Ask and praise. Do your own part of preparation, and at the right time- just when the time is right, He will give you your partner- the partner He deems fit for the work He has called you to do. Marriage is the ‘yoking’ of two souls together for the sole purpose of destiny just as two oxen are equally yoked together to bring about effectiveness on farmlands. Marriage is having a lifelong, trustworthy partner that will be with you for a lifetime and help in the fulfillment of your dreams. Wait for God all the way all through your life’s journey and while you wait in every phase, make Matthew 6:33 your watchword.

And lastly: before you say yes, consider from deep within what the usefulness and the results of you two being together will be- the impact it will have on the quality of your lives, your generation, and the world at large.

Till I come your way again- Stay Blessed and thoughtful.

Eniola Olaosebikan.

Trapped

I'm trapped in you
For eternity?
Maybe not
But say eighty, a hundred years.

I asked for no body
But I was given you
With an assignment- a mandate
That'll last for less than a hundred years
But'll resound through eternity
Till a new earth beckons.

No one else could do it
So I was sent.

What can stop me?
The shape of your nose
Or the colour of your skin?
Your legs, or the way you walk?
The hairs on your head (which you're lucky to have)
Or the scars on your skin?
Your fat belly or your too small or too big buttocks?
Maybe not.
I do not belong to you forever.

I'm only trapped in you
For a little while.
You are a container
My spirit travels in
On the sojourn- this temporary abode called earth.

The end is
To pour out my all in bits: my content
Till all becomes empty
And I go hither
To where I came from
And to He
Who sent me.

The only bond I have
Is to take care of you;
Maintain you
Till the end comes.
You matter, but I-
The me within
Matters most.

You are a means
To my fruitful existence,
Just what I need
To execute my assignment
Till immortality calls
At the final close
Of my eyes.

I am trapped- in you
But unstoppable.

Soulmates: smiles and bores.

Will he cry
When he sees me;
With a deep bore
Devoid of expressions
When on the matrimonial bed
We lay
One warm morn
Face to face,
Twenty years later?

He'll have two eyes;
One that pierces deeply into my soul
Without a word
And another that rather gazes- lovingly
Without words still
Into my eyes.

Would he cry
When his soul I see
Without a word
But he knows
I understand?:
Just when I see- so deep;
His fears and all
That makes him feel
Like a baby and vunerable
But love him anyway?
Far beyond his body?- however great it is.

Would he tell me
I am his mystery;
His soul mate, and soul fit?
Would he tell me
How glad he was he waited
And now has me?

Would he hold me close
Tell me no words still;
-Just his palm gently placed
On mine
When at the table we dine
Full of silence: only
Smiles and bores?

Would he?
'Cos I will.
Soulmates.

II

He is not deaf
He is not dumb
Neither am I.
We speak
We hear;
But more of the soul.
Soul to soul.

III

There is a stillness in our soul
That makes us hear the inaudible,
A light on our path- divine
That makes us see the invisible,
And a sight somewhere in us- bright
That makes us see each other
In words we can't explain.
We are soulmates;
More than mere partners and room mates.
Our souls hear;
Our souls sees;
Together, we see Him
Who for our sins bled and died.
A three fold cord
Who can break?

I am not the best

Good is okay.
I do not want
To be the best.
To be the best
Is to have one to compare to;
To be good-
Is just to be me.

I compete with no other
I compare with no other:
I stay on my lane
And on my own. I am
Good.

II
In God's Eyes
Are hidden
- a billion lights;
Lights that shines through
And sees clearly.
He needs not think twice
Nor tell a lie
About what He sees.

He saw me
And said
I was good.
He makes no mistake.

III
I compare with no one
I compete with no one
God says I am good:
I am good.

IV
I strive to be the best
Because I compare.
But now
Knowing who I am
And whose I am,
I compare no more
Because I know
I am good.

I am good:
He created me good-
That's all that matters.

V
God made two great lights:
The sun
And the moon
Yet,
Both were good.
None was better,
None was best.
Each had its unique purpose
No other can fill.

..God made me too
Amidst many other billions walking;
I am good,
They are good too.

A matter of worth

If I were not worthy
He would never have saved me.
If I were not worthy
He would never have heard any of my prayers
If I were not worthy
He would never have wasted His time
Giving me purpose and vision,
Grace for the journey,
And mercy for times of err.

If I were not worthy
He would never have wasted His effort,
Nor Blood on me;
He would have died for everyone else
But me,
And made it
Categorically known.

If I were never worthy
He would have left me
For the enemy to destroy;
After all, what would have been my use?

...But because I am worthy
He saved me
Gave me a new name,
Claimed, and calls me His own.

Because I am worthy,
He covers me daily and gently
In the warmth
Of His priceless love;
He guides me daily
In the light of His Word,
And hides me daily still-
In the beauty
And awesomeness
Of His Holy Presence
All because of who I am:

His treasure-
A treasure which
He made
Neither greater nor equal of-
A masterpiece.

...He made me
I am worthy.
...I am worthy
Because  He made me.

God makes no junk!

II

I was born-
I am worthy
I am still living,
I am worthy.
I am worthy
Because I have the breath of life-
His own very breath!

God makes
And sustains no junk!

III

Would you if you were God-
Give your attention and time to junk?
Devout yourself to sustaining
And keeping dearly
Something of no value,
Return or worth?
Every maker has intentions,
Intentions wrapped around worth and value
No matter the purpose of the object made.

So, my friend-
Know that-

God makes no junk!
And you are no junk!
You are worthy, precious and priceless!

Ignore the critical voice in your head
The comments,
Opinions,
And perception of people about you.
-You are worthy
Because God made you;

God made you
And He makes no junk!

My New Year gift to you.

 A brand new year. Happy new year everyone.

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Most people have had the life they’ll live this year planned last year, some had it planned  the very first day of this year, and some- are still waiting, hoping to find their way through step by step. Whichever the category you seem to belong to, I know one thing for sure that would lead to a greater and more prosperous life this year-  praying in tongues.

Someone I respect would always say – “when you pray in tongues, you download heavenly wisdom”- a truth I've come to agree with over and over. Essentially, wisdom is knowing what to do, how to do it and when to do it. Praying in tongues gives us that advantage. As established in Romans 8:26-27 when we pray, our spirits takes things to God and God in turn pours things into us, such that there comes a (sudden) knowing of what to do and how to go about it. When we pray in tongues, we align ourselves with what’s been written about us from the beginning of time. We align our will with God's and give Him the chance to not only breathe afresh into us, but to speak His present mind to us.

...Are you confused? Pray in tongues. Seeking the perfect will of God for this year? Pray in tongues. As you pray in tongues, some things would come into your mind. Take note. Could be Bible verses, ideas, steps or actions to take, whatever it may be- pay attention. Speaking in tongues gives us the direct access to the Spirit of God, and the ability to know His mind for us at different points in time; even future times.

No matter how concrete your plan for the year seems, pray in tongues still. You never lose when you pray in tongues. I’ve had a lot of future occurrences revealed to me while praying in tongues, and with this I can say- praying in tongues is sight- it gives us the ability to see into the otherwise invincible. Praying in tongues births hope in us and strengthens us for the journey ahead. I feel safe by knowing I’m in great Hands and under a protective, intimate and divine guidance when I pray in tongues.

Make it a habit to pray daily in tongues. Keep building up your most holy faith as admonished in the Bible. Jude 1:20.

This word I speak to you is my New Year’s gift to you. For most people, it might be time to take it higher while for others, it might be time to start afresh. No matter your category- Pray in tongues (still).

…Till I come your way again, much love and hugs.

A Poem- Thank You Lord

For the tears that flow easily
I thank You
For the Joy and Grace
To be me, with me
I thank You.

Thank You
For giving me
The arms to hold me
The eyes to see me
And the ears to listen to me.

Thank You Lord
For the heart to care about me-
The soul, deep enough, to love me...

For every Gift
You have given me, for me
I thank You.

Thank You Lord.

Copyright- SoulWriter 2015

Own your happiness!

People often seek to have happiness from others. Such people feel extremely lonely and incomplete on their own. They often end up needy- annoyingly needy and by so doing, end up going from one person to another and hopping from one bed to another. It's often a factor that pushes people into marriage, thinking- 'when I get married I'll be happy'.
I guess it all started from the phrase 'and they lived happily ever after'. This phrase unfortunately has deceived a lot of people about life and reality. It has deceived people into believing happiness can only be found with someone else. I lived with this notion unconsciously till I was a teenager. I was delivered when God brought across my way one of Funmi Akingbade's books. Reading the book made me realize happiness was a personal thing.
Many people rush into marriage with a strong hope that marriage will bring them happiness, so they live their single lives miserably while day dreaming of the happiness they'll get from marriage. Hence, many get married ignorantly.
To start with, real happiness is not what someone gives you, rather, it's a gift you give yourself. No one can be/ should be the source of your happiness. You are the source of your happiness; yes! you alone! People that come into your life only complements what you already have on the inside of you. Real happiness starts from knowing yourself, loving you and accepting yourself for who you are even while working on getting better. Real happiness is a protective film that keeps you from making mistakes out of being miserable. Real happiness brings you wholeness and makes you ready for love...
You gotta start owning your own happiness!

The lie I was told

It is amazing how our fear gets transformed into faith; so amazing. Before I really got to know the Lord, the devil filled my heart with fear; I felt I wasn't really going to be able to please God anyway, so why walk with Him. The devil knew so well of my desire to please God, even before I really got to know Him, so he filled my heart with the fear.
The picture the devil painted in my heart was that of an insatiable God; A perfectionist kind of God. He made me forget that God is the God of my weakness; the One who exchanges His strength for my weakness. He made me forget the more time I spend with God, the more Grace He makes available to to me to do His Will.
Can I tell you the truth? The devil is merely afraid- afraid of you. He is afraid of what could be when you make Jesus Christ your Lord and you spend quality time with Him. he is afraid of the havoc you will wreck in his kingdom when God's power constantly comes to you through fellowship. he is afraid destiny comes calling the moment you surrender your life and all to Jesus. he is afraid of the peace you'll get from God, such that his constant threat and injections of fear becomes of no effect in your life.
what lie is the devil telling you today? Dare to resist him and press in into God. Jesus already defeated him! Let your love for God defeat every and any fear the devil tells you. Refuse to be his victim; you are already a victor in Christ! You are more than a conqueror! Make up your mind to walk with God; even if you fall, His Grace will be right there to be pick you up and set you on the right path. God is a Loving and Gracious Father, do not allow the devil deprive you of His love.

1 John 4:18 (NIV) - There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

Have a great day!

Help! I've lost control!!!

There are times in life when everything tends to spin out of control. You are faced with many life questions but little or no solution. Such times,the little solution you manage to come up with is rendered invalid by the issues staring hard at you. At such times, what should be done?
The natural response is worry. You worry not because you want to worry, but because it just shows up. You become so afraid of what could be. The future you had planned for all your life with deep assurance suddenly looks bleak, now that you appear closer. There's no mum, dad or friend to help you as it is a personal issue- deep beyond explanation. You seem entangled. Again, what do you do?
Well, first of all, the first thing to do might be to eliminate worry. Worrying is like a rocking chair that takes you back and forth with no real movement and in time, leaves you tired and exhausted with nothing achieved.
Secondly, when something is higher than you, the wisest thing to do might be to take it to somebody higher and greater, somebody who without a doubt understands the disturbing innermost cry and sees it just the way it is, even without an explanation. God.
That is what I do at such times. Times when it's just me and my thought and everything looks so confusing, uncertain and may be embarrassing. God is the Wisest Being and He has proven True over time. He's been around for decades and centuries; That is why He is referred to as the Ancient of days.
At such times, your answer might just be a prayer away. First, He gives you peace, then Assurance through His Word and lastly His Guidance and Help follows.

Desperate times!

It is a common saying that the definition of craziness is doing the same thing the same way all over again and expecting a different result. It is also a common saying that desperate times calls for desperate measures. How desperate are you?
I was reading the book of 1 Samuel chapter 1 just some minutes ago and something I've never seen before caught my attention. Of course, like every other child that grew up in a sound Christian home, the story of Hannah is quite familiar, but the good news is that God's Word is new every day, and a verse can give you a thousand insight on different readings. So, this time, reading the New Living Translation (NLT),verse 9 caught my attention-

"once after a sacrificial meal at Shiloh, Hannah got up and went to pray...".

 Hannah I believe did something she had never done before. She went away from her usual practice and did something different out of desperation. She withdrew quietly to pray and poured out her heart to the Lord. A miracle followed afterwards...
How desperate are you to move to your next level?-your actions will tell. Are you still doing the same old thing expecting a different result? What is your prayer life like?, and your study life? Do you still say the same seven minute prayer every morning? Even God knows when we are serious- in the book of Jeremiah 29:13-14 (MSG), He Promised that-

“When you come looking for me, you’ll find me.“Yes, when you get serious about finding me and want it more than anything else, I’ll make sure you won’t be disappointed.” God’s Decree. “I’ll turn things around for you. I’ll bring you back from all the countries into which I drove you”—God’s Decree—“bring you home to the place from which I sent you off into exile. You can count on it.

He has promised to make everything new when indeed we come looking for Him. What are you waiting for? What is holding you back? Or are you comfortable with your current status?
If you want to experience a shift, you might as well do something different and get deeper with God(!).

Have a great day!

Get Busy!

Going down memory lane, I remember my most vulnerable moment came when I was less busy. A lot of things happened  and I got myself entangled in many messes. Prior to that, I'd been busy and had little or no time for unwanted side attractions. I was firm, bold and tough. but fast forward,I got less busy and the devil struck!
What do I mean by getting busy? Does it mean dusting all the house, cleaning the shelves and bringing out already washed dishes to rewash them? No. What I mean is- get busy doing what you believe you are on earth for.
When we take our eyes off our goals, we not only see obstacles but boredom. We begin to look for avenues to 'kill' the boredom and in the process land ourselves into trouble. When you get busy, you realize the 24 hours you complain about as being long is not even enough.
An idle man they say is the devil's workshop; getting busy reduces negative and wrong thoughts. It also slides off wrong associations, because I tell you, some friends will not be able to keep up
with you when you get busy. They will see you as being too serious, being boring, because they are yet to find and face their own purpose. My dear life is serious! If a friend constantly tells you you are too serious about life in the process of pursuing your life's assignment, believe me, you don't need such friend!
Getting busy means going after purpose with every breath in you, obstacles not withstanding. When indeed you know why you are on earth and have an idea of what to do, getting busy will be fun to you, even though a lot of discipline and sacrifice will be involved. When you get busy,rest will be sweet afterwards.
What raises the hair on your neck? what brings joy and fulfilment to you, such that you never notice the sun set even when you started at noon? Get busy doing it. Get busy preparing for the future you dream of. Preparation sloughs your dreams into reality.
As you wait for that greatness, get busy!

N.B- A little hint on how to get busy
Focus on your ability and develop it, such that it will be usable and presentable in high places.
Get  busy working on your character and etiquettes, based on how far you see yourself going. Get yourself prepared for where you see yourself in the nearest future.

Addiction (part 1)

It's not unusual these days to see people with addictions. Gone are the days where addiction was attached only to drugs. Today we have many other addictions;- Cigarette, Alcohol, Television (especially with series and season films) and maybe worst of all, pornography.
Now, what is addiction? From experience, I will define addiction as something that takes your time, but you won't lose a thing if finally you decide to let it go. Addiction comes with guilty feelings and all. One could even  be addicted to a human being(!). I guess addiction comes in the case of humans when we virtually can't do without a person. A common 'virus' in new relationships where either or both parties are lonely. They try to get busy by getting engaged with the other party, which unfortunately wears the other individual off at a point in time. Either way, no addiction is healthy.
Additions removes more than it adds to us. Maybe one of these days we will talk more about one of these addictions,especially pornography.
From survey, most of the people running to addiction are running from something. Maybe being alone, getting past some hurtful feelings (i was once in that shoe) and all. Most of the time, addiction comes subtly; it creeps in innocently.
How can we avoid addiction  and break it's yoke from around our necks?

1. Recognise that there is a problem- I guess that might be the first step. If you do not know there is a problem, you might never break free. Solutions are only found to problems.

2. Talking to God about it- Sometimes, some struggles are way beyond us. we know it's wrong, but still we indulge in it because we have no power of our own to break it. I guess a higher power is required to break that which is higher/bigger than us. There is something about taking our problems to God. Strength is released and help is received.

3. Starving the thought- A human being or animal you do not feed does not grow, so also, a thought not fed. When the thought to go back to what you've left comes, focus your attention on something else. You can avoid environments or situations that encourages the addiction.

4. It might not be enough to starve the thought, you might have to fill your mind with new things. You can decide to read books that'll help, tapes or maybe go for seminars. It will be helpful (very) if you fill your mind with things that will help 'fight the battle'. Sometimes, this has to be continuous to avoid going back.

5. Face that issue you are running from- You might have to ask yourself a few questions truthfully. what brought me here? why am I here?... Could remember in my own case, hurt took me there. I overwatched movies to keep myself from thinking/hurting; even when at  many points, the film though interesting, becomes choking. I watched the movie to keep myself busy or sometimes to console myself.

...to be continued

All it takes to start

We all have dreams, we all have desires, we all have hopes.
We dream and talk so much of those dreams that we sometimes literally forget to start.  we have the believe/ thought that everything will work together someday. Will everything work together? Yes, but not without our effort.
We watch our mates move up the ladder, most of them doing what they love and we say to ourselves, sometimes, someday, the world will know me too. we forget that it takes a lot of hard work and self discipline to get things done. I guess if we all could talk without having to be an example, most people would want to encourage others on being the best they can be, without being one themselves. It takes little to talk, but it takes more to act and actually be it.
All said and done, what does it takes to be the best we can be per time? what does it takes to start? Most of us have an idea of what we want to be, at what time, at what age...only we have almost nothing in place to make them a reality. We know though, but also forget that a well orchestrated today is the foundation for the tomorrow we dream of.
Why don't you pick up that one thing it takes to start and start?
Pick up a little courage and let your passion keep you going.
What is it you want to be today? what is it you want to achieve? All it takes to start is a little courage-just a little.